Disrespectful and abusive kids?

Ok i'm 15 and I HAVE to ride with my dad on the church bus. We pick up almost are whole youth up.

Almost everytime i'm on that van. One of thos freakin brats hits me! I've had my hair pulled, i've been bitten, i've been slapped in the face, i've been insulted consently, I've been kicked, and even had one put blue marker in my hair!

There all about 6-14 and most of them should know better then to hit someone bigger then they are!

I don't know what it is about me that makes them want to hit me.

Is it because i'm a nice person? maybe it's because i'm pretty quiet? Maybe because I keep things to myself? I don't know what it is BUT THERE DRIVING ME OFF THE DEEP END!

I've tried just ignoring them. didn't work

I've tried telling them to quit. didn't work

I've tried making them fear me with very mean looks and even threats. I didn't work.

I have even hit them back a few times. Didn't work

All of this has failed. PLEASE HELP ME BEFORE I START PUNCHING SOME LITTLE KIDS!

Disrespectful and abusive kids?

What works for me is meaning what I say, without sounding mean. I can hear a person correct their children in a restaurant and I can tell by their voices that they don't "mean" it. They are really pleading for their children to listen, they are asking them to listen. What they need to do is to inform them that they are expected to act better and mean it!

For me, when I had to try to do this I had to "get in the zone" so to speak. I had to think about what I was going to say and firmly resolve that I DID mean it with every part of me, so that when I stood up for myself, and began consistently correcting my children they knew it without being intimidated, or manipulated.

That doesn't mean that they will be perfect angels, there are many factors that make kids go crazy, sleepiness, happiness, but I have found that it is usually sugary breakfasts. What it means is that I no longer accept unacceptable behavior.

What saddens me about this is that it is not YOUR responsibility to parent these children at all. It is your father's, and I doubt that you would be allowed to refuse to go along with him anymore if he can't figure out a way to maintain control of the situation. The fact is that your father, as the adult, is the one responsible for solving this problem. If he won't, and you can't get out of riding with him, then I would suggest a family meeting about it. Ask to be heard without being interrupted. Tell him you don't want his advice, that you want to be heard, and when you are done it is up to him to figure out what he will do with it. (though you probably do want his advice, telling him that upfront might make him interrupt you whereas asking to just be heard won't and in my opinion you need to get it all out).

Ask him later after he has thought about it and if he has decided that there isn't anything he can do, you can then ask him to just back you up in what you decide to do. As a Sunday school teacher myself I find that I usually have to separate some kids, enforce that nobody touch anyone else (by telling them to keep their hands to themselves) and I sometimes have to stop everything (your dad could stop the bus) to regain control of the situation.

Believe it or not, for whatever reason, being separated from other children is usually what causes the chaos to settle down. I don't quite know why, but it makes the kids scared to act up anymore. I guess it's embarrassing to be singled out, or maybe they really just want to be near their friend.

There are some other basic guidelines that I would follow:

-no food

-no markers, crayons, writing utensils of any kind on the bus PERIOD!!!

-only "inside" voices are allowed

-everyone must keep their hands to themselves

-everyone must wear their seatbelts

-anyone that continues to disobey the rules will get a call home to their parents

-everyone must stay in their seats until they are dismissed from the bus

And as a final tip. Children generally do better when you "catch" them doing something good. If they are following rules, thank them. If they are using inside voices, compliment them on how sweet they sound. If someone is being particularly reverent, single THEM out with lots of praise and that right there has the power to make a revent student out of them for the rest of their time on the bus!

Good luck!

-Kim-

Disrespectful and abusive kids?

Your dad is there. Tell him.

Disrespectful and abusive kids?

The best that I can tell you to do without physical harm LOL, just kidding, is to have you and your father talk to the kids' parents. That should be more effective in most circumstances... good luck!!!

Disrespectful and abusive kids?

they are looking for your attention.sit in the back of the bus and chew gum.that way they will feel intimidated cause they dont know if you are going to put gum in there hair

Disrespectful and abusive kids?

If they're treating you like shiit treat them the same way. When they actually need your help etc. refuse

or juss slap em down.

Disrespectful and abusive kids?

Don't travel in that church bus ! Don't fight with the unreasonable, it just bring you down.

Disrespectful and abusive kids?

Slap them back that will teach them.

Disrespectful and abusive kids?

It is a reflection on the lack of opportunities for the kids to learn the values at home. They do not have the luxury of a well knit and secure family whether the parents bring them up in affection and the discipline required for a responsible citizen. It is high time the citizen realized the craving need for building a family.

Disrespectful and abusive kids?

Tell your dad you don't want to go anymore and tell him why. Keep telling him.